Have you felt like your love story started like that of Romeo and Juliet only to die down after settling together for a while? The phase is quite unexpected but happens to the best of them. Feelings do cool off with time to allow for a deeper engagement. One is to commit and create something beautiful together and the other is to part ways. The latter is more often approached wrongly as people are wrongly convinced that they’ve lost love for each other not knowing it was just the beginning of a beautiful friendship. There is a huge chance of getting that conclusion challenged in counselling as well as getting a new lease as far as marriage life is concerned.
The first objective couple counselling seeks to address is to bring back the love. It is started off by allowing them to reminisce of a time when love came easily. This elates the couple since they get to remember days where their love mattered. They are then ushered to a new phase that involves being honest about how their love spiraled into what it is at present. This gives insight to the counsellor on how to go about the process of reuniting the couple in tailor made manner. There is the part of identifying the endgame of what they would like their marriage to be and with that information on the table, the therapist has all the tools they need to facilitate the healing process.
The next stop is enhancing conflict resolution measures. Most marital problems are birthed from inability to communicate feelings properly. People rush for cover if they feel all the stones are being thrown their way though they would have otherwise apologized if the matter was approached differently. Counselling makes that difference and helps couples find their way to resolving or accepting issues as they are depending on their magnitude. Tolerance, forgiveness and trust are built this way. While it might be hard to go past issues like affairs among many others one-ness, intimacy, respect and trust can be with time re-established with better conflict approaches.
In some cases staying in a relationship will do a couple more harm than good. It becomes very difficult for them as a couple to mend fences as a unit. This necessitates the need for them to actually part ways. Counselling is as important in this case as it is in bringing couples together. It helps in the process of letting go of past wounds and allowing for forgiveness. This way they will be no bad blood between the people even as they each take their different ways.